Who’s With You Thick & Thin?


“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is
someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.”
-Oprah Winfrey

I was at lunch recently with a friend and we were talking about the lessons learned when you hit a tough spot in your life. Whether the tough spot is related to health or work or money, you often find out the value of your relationships.

Who sticks by your side when times get tough?

Conversely, who do you stick by?

My friend’s son was in a car accident and although he has recovered, it was a long four months. During that time he learned who was willing to stick by his side when the healing took longer than expected.

All of his friends rallied in the ER and the ICU. But once he was released and faced with three months of grueling healing and rehab the friends started to fall off. When they realized he couldn’t jump back into the life they’d enjoyed before, most fell away. The visits, cards and calls dwindled to almost nothing.

Except for four young men who continued to visit every weekend. They called during the week. Two of these men had been just acquaintances but over time they hung in and became close friends.

Hopefully it won’t take a near tragedy to help you understand who would be there whether you can afford the limo or the bus. Have you seen the greeting card that says something like “A friend will bail you out of jail.” And on the inside of the card it says “But a real friend will be sitting in the jail cell with you.”

I suppose you can take that a few ways, but make sure you surround yourself with the kind of the people that are there for you because of who you are and not because of what you can provide.

It is a tough lesson. A really hard exercise. One I struggle with because sometimes the “fair weather” friends are relatives and then we feel obligated.

Surround yourself with positive people. Wellness magazine offers some great information on the value of being around positive people. Check it out.