Who is Your Daughter’s Role Model?

In light of the recent escapades of Miley Cyrus, former Disney Hannah Montana starlet, the question has surfaced: “What kind of a role model is Miley being for young girls?”

Dr. Phil has reportedly said “If your daughter’s role model is Miley Cyrus you have bigger problems.”

Which leads me to ask – who do you believe should be the role model for your children?

On a local radio station, they debated the question this morning and the initial calls were all in agreement:

“The parents should be the role model. Hands down – no question.” 

I would agree that parents play an important role in shaping the behaviors and direction of their children. However, as children approach teen years, parents take a back seat to people in the entertainment and political arenas. If we haven’t done a good job of establishing right and wrong behavior with our children at a young age; they may look to VH1, YouTube and Twitter for those influences.

So what characteristics are important for your child to see exhibited in a role model? If you could pick a role model for your children, other than you or a relative, who would that be?

Some callers to the show mentioned Angelina Jolie for her humanitarian efforts and for bravely sharing her decision to undergo double mastectomy surgery.

Demi Lovato was mentioned as a young girl who had journeyed to the dark side with an eating disorder, anger issues and self destructive behavior but who had turned her life around.

Michelle Obama, Condoleezza Rice, and Barbara Walters were mentioned for their strength, passion and purpose.

Some even argued that Miley is a role model for following her own direction and making a name for herself and her music.

It is an interesting debate and I would like to know your thoughts. In this world of instant information, we see every detail (good and bad) of those in the news. And social media has made it possible for ordinary people to become news through viral videos and messaging. So our role has become even more critical to help shape our children’s values and understanding of what is important in life.

At what age do we start discussing questionable behavior to our children? An eleven year old girl made the news last week for standing on a public street corner with a sign “I was disrespecting my parents by twerking at a school dance.”  

So what do you think? How do you manage this conversation with your children? Share your thoughts on our Facebook page.