The Answer is Always No

You’ve heard the phrase: if you don’t ask the question, the answer is always no.

The Secret taught us to think in positive statements and to put our desires out to the universe. In the book Write it Down and Make it Happen the title says it all. Identify your goals, put them in writing and focus your life’s efforts toward those goals.

However, in the recent Kate Hudson movie, Something Borrowedthe Ginnifer Goodwin learned that it is really more basic than that.

You have to actually say what you want OUT LOUD to the people that need to know.

Have you heard the silly story about the devoted husband who ate his wife’s rhubarb pie all the time and when she passed on, he finally admitted that he hated rhubarb but had just eaten it because he didn’t want to disappoint his wife.

Would she have been disappointed? Likely not. She would have made something different. Her desire was to make something that would please her husband but because he wasn’t honest about something as simple as pie, neither got what they wanted.

What is there in your life that you want that you haven’t asked for?

It could be something simple, like asking your significant other to take care of the house and kids so you can have a night out with the girls. It could be confessing that you’d like to go back to school and earn another degree, or learn something new or get your first degree. It could be that promotion you have been working for but never let anyone know you were interested in.

 What do you want that you haven’t voiced?

 If you don’t ask, the answer is no. Every time.

If you voice your desires, the answer may still be no, initially, but when others know what you want, they will be in a better position to help you get there.

As working women, we are the foundation of our world. People count on us to make things happen…for other people. From making sure the bathroom always has toilet paper to ensuring that your clients have what they need.

What about you?

If you don’t ask – no one is going to ask on your behalf. And if you are thinking that there will be plenty of time later, when the kids are grown or the house is paid off or when you retire…think again. In the past week, within my circle of influence, two people in their early fifties died suddenly the cousin of a friend died in childbirth at the age of 38.

We just assume there will be time and maybe there will be.

Have you ever sold a home and moved? As you prepare to sell your home, you start to make little changes to make the house more attractive to potential buyers. You paint the walls, replace the carpet, spruce up the landscaping around the entryway. You do all of these things…for someone else.

Why don’t we make those changes so that we can enjoy them?

It is time. Today.  Right this minute. Stand up at your computer and tell the first person you see something that you want. A coke. A break. A book.  Whatever – but voice what you want out loud and then do what it takes to make it happen!