Those of you of a certain age will remember the classic Frank Sinatra song “My Way” in which he sings:
Regrets I’ve had a few
But then again too few to mention
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption
I planned each charted course
Each careful step along the byway
And more, much more than this
I did it my way
Can we all say that? There are two kinds of regrets:
1. Regrets over things you did or said.
2. Regrets over things you DID NOT do or say.
When people are asked about the things they regret most in life, it is typically the second type – regrets over what you didn’t try, do, learn, say, that people remember.
Here is the beauty about regrets – it is never too late. Is there something you wish you had done? A path you wanted to try. Perhaps try your hand at local politics, learn to speak Italian well enough to converse on vacation in Tuscany, reconnect with a high school friend with whom you’ve lost touch, learn to sew or play piano or tap dance or sky dive?
What is stopping you?
Perhaps you can’t recreate the exact circumstance that you regret – you wish you would have told someone you loved them and now they are gone. But can you connect with their family? Write a long letter that comes from the heart? You wish you would have trained for a marathon and now you are out of shape. Is there a smaller goal you can work on to help you build the stamina needed to achieve that most challenging goal?
Is there a career you dreamed of as a teenager but real life got in the way and you found yourself in a job that is going no where. How about taking a few classes at the community college and get back on that original path.
What do you regret? What can you do about it?
What WILL you do about it?