Have you ever been in a circumstance where you have to make a hard choice? Of course you have. Almost from the minute we wake up, we are making choices; what to wear, the route to work, our coffee order at the local coffee shop.
However, some choices are harder than others. To marry, to stay married, to have children, what to study in school, the job to pursue, to leave our current position, to apply for a promotion, to move, to place a parent in assisted living, to carefully remove a “friend” from our lives who zaps our energy and so many more.
How do you face hard choices and what is your process for handling them?
Hillary Clinton has a new book entitled Hard Choices in which she talks primary about her years as the Secretary of State but also chronicles hard choices she has been faced to make and the hard choices she watched others make.
She talks about the fact that hard choices at home are just as important as hard choices made that impact cultures, communities and countries.
“All of us face hard choices in our lives,” Hillary Rodham Clinton writes at the start of this personal chronicle of years at the center of world events. “Life is about making such choices. Our choices and how we handle them shape the people we become.”
In an article by Carol Dougherty, she talks about making hard choices in the workplace:
The key to being effective in making these hard decisions is in your mindset. How you react to the situation will determine how your team handles it.
If you dread the decision and worry about it then it becomes bigger and harder to make. You may also delay making the call which can have a negative impact on your team.
Lori Deschene offers 30 tips for making difficult decisions in her article: How to Make a Difficult Decision. In the article, Lori shares her own personal struggles and some of the decisions she has been faced to make. The biggest stumbling block is knowing if you are making the right decision. Lori reminds us that we can’t tell the future:
We can never know for sure when we make a decision that it’s going to pan out as we hope. All we can do is follow our strongest calling, and then trust that whatever the future holds, it will enrich our lives, one way or another.
She turned to her Facebook audience and asked for their advice on how to making tough choices and their responses are what make up the 30 tips. It is definitely worth a read.
So how do you handle hard choices? Often we think that it is like Robert Frost’s Road Not Taken; we have the choice of the well worn and known path vs. the dark and eerie path less traveled, when in fact, there is a third choice. Doing nothing is also a choice and can have just as significant results as the other options.
In a recent Purposeful Woman newsletter we also talk about making choices: Is it time for a change?
Each day we are faced with choice; some easier than others. How do you manage?
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