I recently gave a presentation at the WIN in Cleveland about aligning your life to be more in focused with what you want out of life. Diane Helbig, Seize the Day author, recapped my presentation and asks some great thought provoking questions in her article “Do What You Love.”
Do I look forward to doing it?
Do I enjoy it while I’m doing it?
Do I want to do it again when I walk away from it?
When we can answer these questions we can get a better feel for the things we enjoy and those we don’t. Then when we look at how those things align with our goals we can further determine whether we should be doing them or just saying ‘no.’
I am reminded of a book published in the 80s entitled “Do What You Love and the Money will Follow” by Marsha Sinetar. Often we approach life from the opposite perspective and say that once we have earned the money, then we can do what we love. But first we have to pay the bills.
There is a huge leap of faith that is required by doing what you love first, but the end results far outweigh the sacrifices. When you start off by doing what you love you will be:
- Less Stressed
And aren’t those all the things we want out of life?
Another classic book that can help you in this process is “What Color is Your Parachute.” In the back of the book – updated every year since the original publication in 1970, is the Flower Exercise. I have done this exercise and I am not going to lie – it is time consuming. But think about the time you are wasting living a life that you don’t love.
The Flower Exercise forces you to think about the people, places and projects that you love most and throughout the process begins to narrow your thinking to what you would most love to do.
Here is the bottom line. You get this one life. This one chance to make a difference in the lives of others (which we are really pretty good at) but also in our own lives (a prospect we haven’t quite mastered).
A big thank you to Diane Helbig for her recap of my presentation and the open-ended questions that she suggests we ask ourselves:
How fulfilled are you? What are you actually accomplishing? If you want to be successful – whatever that looks like for you – you have to pair down your activities so they are aligned with your goals, your skills, and your interest.